Men’s Emotional Processing Group · Phase 3 of 3
The Work Underneath
A therapy group for men — learning what’s underneath, and what to do with it.
Virtual group · meets online by secure video
Most of what goes wrong at home doesn’t start with what you said.
It starts with what you were feeling and didn’t have words for. The irritation that came out of nowhere. The shutdown when she started talking. The weekend you were there, and not there. The pressure to perform in bed, and the silence after a night that didn’t go the way you wanted.
You don’t have to become someone else. Keep the strength. Keep providing and protecting. You can even keep doing all of it alone. Nothing gets taken from you here. This work asks you to pick up another set of tools: Connection, Belonging, Acceptance, and Grace. You need to know what’s underneath — and what to do with it. That is the work, and it is work men are good at once someone hands them the tools.
Phase 3 of 3 in the Men’s Emotional Processing Group. The three phases are built to follow one another: The Feeling Work Is the Real Work, then Back to Me, then The Work Underneath. That order is my recommendation, not a requirement. Each phase is a complete group, and you can join any one of them without the others. For the fullest result, I recommend all three.
Who this group is for
Men of any background who want more control over their reactions and more connection with the people they love.
What we do over twelve weeks
Notice what you feel while it is happening, before it comes out as irritation or shutdown.
Catch anger and shame early, before they run the conversation.
Stop the avoiding — the scrolling, the working late, the going quiet.
Get clear on what matters to you, and the man you want to be.
Turn toward your partner, your children, and your brothers instead of away.
Say what you need, and hear what they need.
This group draws on emotion-skills training, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and group work designed for men.
For men of faith, this is discipleship: becoming the man you were made to be.
The details
Every group meets online, and that works in your favor.
No traffic, no parking, no waiting room. Ninety minutes of group costs you ninety minutes.
You are already home when it ends. After a hard session there is no drive to get through. You close the laptop and you are in your own space.
Private from the start. Nobody sees you walk into an office.
Distance stops deciding who is in the room. Members join from across Florida, Texas, North Carolina, Virginia, Missouri, and New Jersey.
Twelve straight weeks is easier to keep when getting there takes one click.
Length
12 weeks
Each session
90 minutes
Meets
Once a week
Group size
8 to 10 men
Where
Online, by secure video
Each phase is its own group. You choose one at a time.
Ready? It starts with a message.
Send me a short note and tell me if The Work Underneath sounds like you. I’ll reply personally, and we’ll talk before anything else happens.