“I know it was years ago. So why does my body still act like it’s happening now?”
“I can be fine for weeks — and then one tone of voice, one closed door, and I’m small again.”
EMDR therapy for trauma, complex PTSD, and attachment wounds, virtual for adults
Virtual sessions only · by secure video
It was a long time ago. Your body didn’t get the message.
You’ve probably tried to reason your way out of it. You know you’re an adult. You know you’re safe now. You know it “shouldn’t” still matter. None of that knowing reaches the part of you that braces every time.
Maybe you get loud. Maybe you go numb and leave the room without moving. Both are the same body doing the same job: keeping you alive the only way it learned how.
What you’re carrying is not weakness.
Some memories never finished being processed. They are stored as if the danger is still current. What you’ve been living with is the fingerprint of your resilience: the way you learned to survive what you never should have had to survive. And it can heal.
What EMDR is, in plain words
EMDR is designed to help your brain finish processing memories that got stuck, so they stop feeling like the present and start feeling like the past. The letters stand for Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing.
You don’t have to tell me every detail out loud. While you hold a piece of a memory in mind, you follow a gentle back-and-forth rhythm: eye movements, tapping, or tones. Every so often I’ll ask, “What do you notice now?” Over time, the charge can drain out. The memory stays. The alarm doesn’t have to.
When it wasn’t one terrible day
Sometimes harm wasn’t a single event but a climate: repeated, hard to escape, often at the hands of people who were supposed to protect you. That is what complex PTSD names. Sometimes the people you depended on early were frightening, unpredictable, or absent, so that love and danger got wired together. You came away with rules you never chose: I’m too much. I’m not enough. Connection costs me something. We work with both, at a pace that keeps you steady.
If it shows up most with your partner, then couples work may be the best place to start. The pattern you learned early is usually the one running the fight at home.
Steadiness first, as much as you need
If your history is long, or started early, we won’t dive in on day one. First we build steadiness: ways to calm your body, a sense of what “safe enough” feels like, and trust between us. Some people need a few sessions of this. Some need more. As much preparation as you need, and no longer than you need.
We decide together which memories to work on, and in what order. When we start processing, I stay with you the whole way and we stop whenever you need to. We always leave time at the end to settle before you go back to your day.
Every session is virtual, by secure video, for adults in Florida, Texas, North Carolina, Virginia, Missouri, and New Jersey. Sessions are 50 minutes, or a 100-minute semi-intensive when we want room to finish and settle. Online, we use eye movements on screen or tapping you do yourself.
I am EMDR trained, through EMDRIA-approved EMDR Basic Training. EMDR is recommended as a treatment for PTSD by the World Health Organization and the U.S. Departments of Veterans Affairs and Defense.
When the risen Jesus met Thomas, He still carried His wounds, and He invited Thomas to see and touch them (John 20:27). They were part of His story and no longer the end of it. I believe that kind of healing is still on offer, and I’ve watched it come slowly and gently. If faith is part of how you heal, it’s welcome here. If it isn’t, nothing about your care changes.
Considered group therapy?
Group Therapy Begins February 2027
If one-on-one feels like too much too soon, a group can be a gentler first step. Being seen ends not in rejection but in being reached for.
Unafraid to Heal has a room for everyone in your family: single adults ready to love differently, women carrying more than anyone sees, and teenagers learning to trust themselves again. Unafraid doesn’t mean you aren’t afraid. It means you’re done letting the fear decide.
Real Men Heal is where a man keeps his strength and stops carrying the weight alone.
Questions people ask before starting
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No. You need to hold the memory in mind, not narrate it. Many people tell me that was what finally made this possible.
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Here is the honest answer: it depends on what you’re carrying. A single event can move in a handful of sessions. A long history takes longer, and we’ll review where we are as we go.
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Feelings and memories can stir between sessions. That’s common, and we plan for it: how you’ll settle, and what to do if something comes up.
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This work is for adults, 18 and older, who are carrying something that still runs their body, their sleep, or their relationships.
It may not be the first step if life is in crisis right now: if you are not safe where you live, or you are fighting to stay sober this week. Then we steady things first, or I help you find the right support. Accountability, not rejection.
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It can be done well online. The research on remote EMDR is newer and mostly small studies, and the results so far are promising. We plan carefully for how you’ll settle afterward in your own space.
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EMDR is recommended as a treatment for PTSD in guidelines from the World Health Organization, the International Society for Traumatic Stress Studies, and the U.S. Departments of Veterans Affairs and Defense.
For complex trauma, the evidence is growing and still debated. Studies show trauma-focused therapies, including EMDR, can help, and experts still disagree about how much preparation should come first. I’ll always tell you where the research is solid and where it is still being written.
Complex PTSD is a newer diagnosis, and the research on treating it is still maturing. I won’t promise a number of sessions. I will promise a pace that keeps you steady, and the truth about how it’s going.
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Often, yes. The two can help each other.
You survived it. You don’t have to keep reliving it.
You have carried this a long time, and you have carried it alone. You don’t have to tell me everything on the first call. Tell me what you can.